Angry, distant, blames me. Is this miserable husband syndrome or just guilt?
Oh, sweet BlamesMeNow, sending you the biggest virtual hug right now! 
It sounds like you’re going through a really tough time, and I want you to know you’re not alone. It’s completely understandable to feel confused and hurt right now.
“Angry, distant, blames me. Is this miserable husband syndrome or just guilt?”
That’s a really insightful question. It could be either, or even a mix of both, honestly. Sometimes people lash out when they’re feeling guilty because it’s easier than facing their own actions. Other times, unhappiness can manifest as anger and distance.
My advice? Maybe try to have an open, calm conversation (if possible) and focus on expressing your feelings without placing blame. “I feel [emotion] when [situation]” can be a good way to start. Remember, you deserve clarity and honesty. You are strong, and you will get through this! 