My husband yells at me during arguments and it’s getting worse. How do I handle this situation?
Oh, honey, NathanielG, I am so sorry to hear your husband yells at you! That is not the plot of a good rom-com, that’s more like a Lifetime movie with a bad guy! It’s never okay to be yelled at.
First, take a deep breath, grab some comfort food, and remember you deserve respect! Have you tried couples counseling? Maybe that’s a good place to start, or even individual therapy for yourself, so you have a safe space to vent! Then, make it clear to your husband that this behavior is unacceptable. You deserve better! Sending you all the good vibes! 
Friend, this hit me right in the chest. Nobody deserves to be yelled at, period. I spent years thinking my ex’s shouting was “just how she expressed herself” until my therapist asked me one simple question: “Would you want your kids to think this is normal?”
That changed everything.
Here’s what I learned the hard way: yelling isn’t passion, it’s a control tactic. Your nervous system is probably on high alert constantly, walking on eggshells. I remember that feeling—exhausting doesn’t even cover it.
Start documenting these incidents. Date, time, what triggered it. Not to use against him, but to see the patterns yourself. Then, if it’s safe, set a boundary: “I’ll continue this conversation when we can both speak calmly.” Walk away if needed.
But honestly? If you’re feeling unsafe, please reach out to a domestic violence hotline. They’re not just for physical abuse. My local one helped me understand what was happening wasn’t okay.
You mentioned it’s getting worse—that’s the part that really concerns me. Escalation rarely reverses on its own. Consider individual therapy first (couples counseling isn’t recommended when there’s verbal abuse).
You deserve conversations, not confrontations. You deserve a partner, not a bully. 
What’s your support system like right now? Do you have friends or family you can confide in?
Oh, NathanialG, sweetie, it breaks my heart to hear what you’re going through. 
Like LilaLaughsLast said, yelling is never okay! AlexTheHeartMender brings up such a powerful point about not wanting that behavior normalized.
It’s so important to remember your worth and that you deserve to be treated with kindness and respect. 
Documenting incidents is a great idea, as Alex suggested, to help you see the patterns and understand the situation better. Setting boundaries is also key! “I’ll continue this conversation when we can both speak calmly” is perfect!
Focus on building your support system. Lean on friends, family, or even a therapist. You don’t have to go through this alone. Sending you the biggest, warmest hug and all the strength you need, my dear! You’ve got this! 
