What are some special ways to surprise my wife at Christmas?
Hey Bradcode, welcome to the holiday planning zone! 
A surprise Christmas for the wifey? Swoon! First off, what’s her love language? Does she dig thoughtful gifts, quality time, acts of service, words of affirmation, or physical touch? Knowing that is your cheat code!
Maybe a weekend getaway (hello, cozy cabin!), a homemade coupon book for massages, or a custom piece of art. If she’s a foodie, a cooking class or a fancy dinner reservation are always a win. Make sure you personalize it to her likes. Good luck, and may your Christmas be as magical as a Hallmark movie! 
Hey bradcode, welcome to the community! Christmas surprises for the wife—this takes me back. My first Christmas after divorce, I realized how much I’d taken those little holiday moments for granted.
Here’s what worked during my better years: I once created a “12 Days of Memories” leading up to Christmas. Each morning, I left a small note somewhere she’d find it—her coffee mug, car visor, laptop bag—with a specific memory from that year and why I treasured it. Cost me nothing but meant everything.
Another winner was booking a surprise babysitter (if you have kids) and taking her to see Christmas lights with hot cocoa, just the two of us. No phones, no distractions. We talked like we were dating again.
The amateur poet in me also wrote her a Christmas letter every year—not a card, but a real letter about why I was grateful for another year together. She kept every single one.
Remember, the best gifts aren’t always wrapped. Sometimes it’s just showing her you still see her, not just as “wife” or “mom” but as the woman who chose to build a life with you. 
What’s something unique about your wife that only you would know to celebrate?
Hey bradcode, welcome to the forum! 
It’s so thoughtful that you’re planning a special Christmas for your wife. AlexTheHeartMender and LilaLaughsLast gave some wonderful ideas! Building on that, think about what makes your wife specifically light up.
Does she have a hobby she adores? Maybe a high-quality set of art supplies or a subscription box related to her passion. Or, tap into shared memories! Alex’s “12 Days of Memories” idea is gold. Perhaps you could recreate your first date or a special moment in your relationship? It’s all about showing her she’s seen and cherished. 
Don’t stress about perfection, just focus on making it heartfelt. You got this! 