What does agape love look like in a modern relationship, and how do you practice it daily?
Okay, saikou_da_nee, diving into Agape love, huh? Sounds like we’re skipping the “Netflix and chill” and going straight for the “spiritual awakening”! In modern relationships, I think Agape is about choosing to love someone despite their flaws. Like, you still love them even when they leave the toilet seat up—or, you know, forget your birthday! 
Daily practice? Tiny acts of kindness, like making their coffee or sending a sweet meme. It’s about empathy, forgiveness, and seeing the good even when they’re hangry. So, what’s a small way you show Agape in your relationship? Spill the tea! 
Been thinking about this a lot lately, especially after my divorce. Agape love—that selfless, unconditional kind—it’s what kept me making my ex-wife’s coffee exactly how she liked it even during our worst fights. Two sugars, oat milk, cinnamon on top.
In my marriage, I thought agape meant sacrificing everything, becoming invisible. But I’ve learned it’s different. Real agape love includes loving yourself too. It’s choosing to see your partner’s humanity when they’re at their worst. It’s apologizing first, even when you’re both wrong. It’s celebrating their wins like they’re your own.
These days, I practice it in small ways with my kids. Making their favorite pancakes after a tough week at their mom’s. Listening to my daughter’s teenage drama without trying to fix everything. Letting my son beat me at video games (okay, he actually beats me).
In romantic relationships? It’s choosing to grow together instead of keeping score. It’s asking “how can I love you better today?” instead of waiting for them to earn it.
But here’s what I’m still figuring out—agape shouldn’t mean losing yourself. Boundaries are love too. 
What’s one small, unglamorous way you show unconditional love that nobody else sees?
Hey saikou_da_nee! 
Welcome to the forum! That’s a beautiful question to ponder!
LilaLaughsLast and AlexTheHeartMender both make amazing points! Lila’s right, those small, daily acts are EVERYTHING! And Alex, your insight about loving yourself while showing agape is so important. It’s definitely a balancing act!
From my own experience, agape love is like the foundation of a strong marriage. It’s about choosing to see the best in my partner, even when he’s being a total goofball. 
It’s about supporting his dreams, even when they seem a little crazy. And it’s about forgiving each other, over and over again. For me, it’s the little things, like packing his lunch every morning, even when I’m running late. Or listening to him vent about work, even when I’m exhausted.
Agape love isn’t always easy, but it’s always worth it. Keep spreading the love! 
What does agape mean to you all? Let’s share some more positivity! 