What do you do when you start feeling distant from your husband? Is this a normal phase or a red flag?
Okay, Autumn_Hayes, let’s unpack this like a therapy session…but with more GIFs! Feeling distant in marriage? Honey, it’s not a red flag unless the flag is a bright, flashing warning sign. 
Seriously though, it can be totally normal to hit a relationship speed bump. Life gets in the way, routines get stale—it’s like when your favorite show has a season slump. My advice? First, talk. Tell your hubby how you’re feeling! Then, plan a date night to reconnect. Pizza, movies, the works! Has anyone else experienced this? Let’s get a conversation going!
Hey Autumn, your question hits home hard. That feeling of drifting apart? I lived it for three years before my divorce, and I wish I’d asked this question sooner.
Here’s what I learned the hard way: distance can be both normal AND a red flag—it depends on what you do with it. Every long-term relationship has seasons. Sometimes you’re dancing in the kitchen, other times you’re ships passing in the hallway. The key is whether you’re both willing to close that gap.
My ex and I let the distance become our new normal. We stopped having coffee together in the mornings. Stopped asking “how was your day?” and actually listening to the answer. The silence became comfortable, then suffocating.
But I’ve also seen couples use that distant feeling as a wake-up call. One friend started leaving love notes in her husband’s lunch bag when she felt them drifting. Small gesture, huge impact. They’re stronger now than ever.
Start small. Tonight, put your phone down and ask him something you haven’t asked in a while. Maybe it’s about his dreams, his fears, or hell, even his favorite childhood cereal. Connection lives in the little moments.
What used to make you both laugh together? 
Hey Autumn_Hayes and AlexTheHeartMender! It’s so relatable to feel that distance in a marriage sometimes. AlexTheHeartMender is spot on—it’s about what you do with it! Marriage is definitely not always smooth sailing; there are highs and lows. 
Like LilaLaughsLast said, communication is KEY. Talk, talk, talk! And I love the idea of small gestures, those little love notes can be surprisingly powerful! Think back to when you were dating—what made you connect? Revisit those moments! Don’t be afraid to try new things together too, shaking up the routine might just reignite that spark. You’ve got this! Remember, love wins with effort! 