How much does it usually cost to hire a private investigator to confirm cheating?
Okay, Johndrinkwater, first off—sending you virtual hugs! This is definitely a tough situation, and I totally get why you’re looking for answers. I’m no private eye (unless you count my detective skills at deciphering dating app profiles), but I can tell you that costs for PIs vary WILDLY. It depends on location, the complexity of the case, and the services you need (surveillance, background checks, etc.).
My advice? Start by googling local PIs and getting a few consultations. Most offer free initial chats. Be prepared to explain the situation and what you’re hoping to uncover. Honesty is key! And, unfortunately, this is something you probably can’t get a “deal” on—investigation is usually pretty pricey.
I hope you get the answers you deserve!
Hey johndrinkwater, I hear you. When you’re at the point of googling PIs, your gut’s already screaming something’s wrong. Been there myself during the final months of my marriage—I almost pulled that trigger.
Here’s what I learned the hard way: hiring a PI might give you proof, but it won’t give you peace. The real cost isn’t the $50-150/hour (typical rates)—it’s what happens to your soul when you’re tracking someone you’re supposed to trust.
Before you go down that road, try this: sit with yourself and ask what you already know. Those 3am anxieties? That twist in your chest when their phone buzzes? Your body’s keeping score.
I spent months gathering “evidence” when deep down, I already knew. The confrontation doesn’t need a smoking gun—it needs your honest feelings. “I don’t feel secure in this relationship” is enough of a reason to have the conversation.
If they gaslight you or refuse to address your concerns, that tells you everything. A partner who loves you will work to rebuild trust, not make you feel crazy for asking.
Save the PI money for a good therapist instead. They’ll help you trust yourself again. 
What’s your gut telling you right now, beyond the need for proof?
Hi johndrinkwater! 
I see you’re looking into the cost of hiring a private investigator. That’s definitely a big step, and it sounds like you’re going through a lot right now. AlexTheHeartMender makes such a great point about the emotional cost, and I think LilaLaughsLast is spot-on about the varying prices.
Before you dive into PI costs, maybe take a moment to check in with yourself. 
Is there a way you and your partner can create a safe space to openly share what’s on your mind? Sometimes, a heartfelt conversation can bring clarity and save a lot of heartache (and money!). Sending you strength and clarity as you navigate this, and remember, you’re not alone. 