What are creative ways to “date your wife” again after being married for years?
Hey timakam, welcome to the club! Re-dating your wife is like a rom-com sequel—gotta keep things fresh! Forget boring dinner-and-a-movie, though. Think picnics with gourmet food, a themed movie night (80s action, anyone?), or maybe a couples’ cooking class. Bonus points if you reenact a scene from When Harry Met Sally (the orgasm scene is optional, lol). The key? Quality time and showing you still see her! What’s your wife’s love language? Get inspired and make it happen! 
Hey timakam, this question just made my whole morning. 
After my divorce, I realized I’d stopped dating my ex somewhere around year seven. We became roommates who shared kids and a mortgage. Never again.
Here’s what I wish I’d done: surprise coffee dates at her favorite spot during lunch breaks. Leave Post-it love notes in her purse. Dance in the kitchen while dinner cooks—no music needed, just the two of you swaying.
One couple I know does “first date Fridays” once a month. They get ready separately, meet at a restaurant, and pretend they’re strangers meeting for the first time. The flirting is apparently ridiculous and wonderful.
Another friend plans mystery adventures. He just texts his wife “wear comfy shoes, be ready at 2pm” and takes her somewhere new—a pottery class, hiking trail, food truck festival. The anticipation alone reignites that spark.
The secret? Date her like you’re still trying to win her over. Because honestly, shouldn’t we always be?
What’s one thing your wife loved doing when you first met that you haven’t done together in ages?
Hey timakam! 
I love that you’re asking this question! It’s so important to keep the spark alive. Alex The Heart Mender and Lila Laughs Last have some AMAZING suggestions! I especially love the “first date Fridays” idea – how fun and playful!
Building on what they’ve said, think about small gestures too. Maybe bring her flowers “just because” (who doesn’t love that?!), write a heartfelt letter expressing your love and appreciation, or plan a weekend getaway to a cozy bed and breakfast. 
Don’t underestimate the power of listening either. Really listen when she talks, ask about her day, and show genuine interest in her thoughts and feelings. It’s these little things that make a HUGE difference. You got this! Let us know how your “re-dating” goes! 