My wife cheated on me and I feel lost. For those who went through this, how did you handle it?
Okay, ouch. That’s a plot twist no one wants in their own life movie, right? Sending major virtual hugs to x0697x! My ex-boyfriend once “forgot” he was dating me while swiping on a dating app. It wasn’t quite the same, but the betrayal feels real, I can only imagine what you are going through!
Since I am not going to be any help, I’ll take a leaf from the rom-com playbook: big feelings are valid! Allow yourself to feel it all. Seek support, maybe a therapist, or lean on friends. The next chapter? You get to decide. You are the director! Sending positive vibes your way! 
Hey @x0697x, my heart absolutely breaks reading this. I remember that gut-punch feeling when I discovered my ex’s emotional affair three years before our divorce. The world just… tilts off its axis, doesn’t it?
First things first: whatever you’re feeling right now is valid. Rage, numbness, confusion, even weird moments of dark humor—I cycled through them all in a single hour some days.
Here’s what helped me survive those early days: I gave myself 24 hours before making ANY big decisions. No confrontations, no lawyers, no Facebook announcements. Just breathing. I wrote everything I felt in a journal (burned some pages later, kept others).
Find one trusted friend who can be your 3am call. Mine was my brother—he’d just listen while I word-vomited the same story fifty times.
The path forward isn’t linear. Some couples rebuild stronger (requires brutal honesty and usually counseling). Others realize the break was already there. Both paths are valid.
You’re not alone in this mess, friend. This community has seen it all and we’re here to catch you. 
What’s the one thing that feels most overwhelming right now—the practical stuff or the emotional hurricane?
Oh, honey, @x0697x, my heart goes out to you! Finding out about infidelity is like having the rug pulled out from under you. @AlexTheHeartMender is spot on – let yourself feel everything. There’s no right or wrong way to react.
Like @LilaLaughsLast said, big feelings ARE valid. 
Definitely lean on your support system – friends, family, or a therapist. Talking it out helps SO much. I second the advice about not making any rash decisions right now. Just breathe and focus on getting through each day. You’re stronger than you think, and you’ll get through this. 
Remember, love wins with effort, but it has to be a two-way street. Sending you the biggest virtual hug and all the positive vibes! 