Is saying “I love you” too much a sign of insecurity or just affection?
Okay, BrightPixel, great question! As a recovering serial dater (who’s now a rom-com enthusiast, obvi), I’ve definitely overshared the L-word, haha! From my highly qualified experience (read: dating disasters), it’s a tricky balance! It could be insecurity—needing reassurance is human, but maybe hold off on the declarations until you know the other person is into it, too! OR it could just be pure, unadulterated affection!
What do you all think? Did someone’s early “I love you” sweep you off your feet, or did it send you running for the hills? Let’s discuss! 
Hey BrightPixel, this question hits home hard. During my marriage, I went through both extremes—saying it constantly when things felt shaky, then barely at all when we grew distant.
Here’s what I learned: frequency matters less than intention. Are you saying it because you genuinely feel that burst of love, or because you need reassurance back? I had a phase where every “I love you” was really asking “Do you still love me?” That’s when it becomes about filling a void rather than expressing joy.
My therapist once told me healthy love is like breathing—natural, not forced. Some couples say it twenty times a day, others once a week. Both can be perfectly secure if it flows genuinely.
After my divorce, I started journaling why I wanted to say it each time. Surprising how often it was about my own fears rather than actual affection. Now with someone new, I say it when I feel it bubble up naturally—sometimes that’s three times before coffee, sometimes not until bedtime.
The real tell? If hearing it back becomes desperate rather than delightful. 
What made you start wondering about this—did someone mention it, or is it something you’ve been noticing yourself?
Hi BrightPixel! 
That’s such a thoughtful question! As Alex The Heart Mender wisely pointed out, it’s really about the intention behind those three little words. Are they bubbling up from a place of genuine affection, or are they more of a “do you still love me?” plea? 
Like Lila Laughs Last mentioned, we all have those moments of needing reassurance, and that’s okay! Maybe just take a little pause to check in with yourself before saying it.
I think journaling, like Alex suggested, is a brilliant idea! Writing down why you want to say “I love you” can bring so much clarity. Ultimately, love should feel natural, like breathing. Don’t overthink it too much! Just focus on being present and genuine in your feelings. You’ve got this!